Here is our first “ABI: Mind, Body & Soul” blog post. I hope you enjoy and can gain something from it. For the picture below describes how I felt for a long time after my ABI.
Mind – Mindfulness
Mindfulness meditation is a technique that when used in the right way can be extremely useful in gaining a sense of piece and control and eases the feeling of unpredictability that goes on in the mind of an ABI patient. If you’re an ABI patient you’ll know, issues regarding mood levels, state of mind, and positive vs. negative outlook are difficult to manage. Trying to find that sense of contentedness and stability in your mind and thought processes can seem like a never-ending struggle. Mastering certain aspects of Mindfulness can help you manage these issues. I will not lie to you; it is not an easy thing to master, the particular aspect that I am talking about especially. I would also add that you DEFINITELY CANNOT master it overnight. It can be a period of weeks and even months but please, don’t let that deter you because it has done wonders for me.
What Is It?
It is a case of disciplining yourself, not allowing your brain to think the thoughts that lead down a road to depression, anger, and anxiety etc. all of the things that we struggle with as ABI patients, heading them off before they gain momentum and simply being yourself in the moment with no thoughts, anxieties or worries.
The first step of that is learning the thought patterns of your brain. Think of your thoughts almost as a road map, you have to learn that road map inside out.
For example, say you have one of those moments where you suddenly realise that you feel down and depressed, in and Mindfulness it is a case of analyzing the thoughts you were having previously: what was I thinking about? Was it a memory? Was it a hypothetical scenario? Was it an imagined situation? Was it an encounter with a particular person? Was it thinking about things outside my control? Ask yourself the question “how did I get here?”
How To Master The Process
For thoughts to get to a certain place there is a trail, a road to that negative destination. There is almost an element of detective work about the process: looking back through the thoughts you had previously that led you to the place you are now. Analyze those thoughts and see whether they cause a negative, positive or passive response. This can be difficult to do and requires a lot of hard work, discipline and practice. I realise that memory is a problem for people like us with an ABI so when trying to recall your thoughts and analyze them, maybe try jotting them down the subjects and responses in a notebook (this will also come in handy later on).
As time goes on and your unpredictable moods continue (unfortunately having to live with them is all part of the mastering the discipline) and you continue the analytical approach of examining your thoughts and how you respond and writing them down, you will gradually start to build up a list of subjects that you do not react well to (and perhaps another which is made up of things which have a positive effect). So you have the beginning of the trail that leads to the negative places we so desperately avoid.
What Is The Outcome?
The final piece of this process is the most important one and probably the hardest. Once you are aware of your thoughts, where they lead and the emotional responses they cause, it becomes a case of training your mind to block off banish the negative thoughts if they occur in your mind. Actively say to yourself “No, I’m going to think about something else,” if that is necessary. Another option is to find a distraction, for example try learning a poem or the lyrics to a song that you like and repeating them to yourself or turn to one of the thoughts you noted that had a positive effect, a comedian you like. You will notice that these positive thought process can gain momentum as well. The most important thing is learning where your thoughts lead and being aware of the effect your own mind can have on you. Learning this technique can help you to use your mind to be positive, be happy and build confidence.
It also allows you to spend time, as I have said, just being. Being able to clear your head of negative thoughts and live in the moment, in the here and now is an amazingly freeing thing. I don’t know anyone who has truly mastered it, I think the only people to have done that might be monks living in Tibet but if you can get to grips with it and set aside some time in the day to practice and discipline yourself to be able to do it even to an average standard, then your day to day life and state of mind will be hugely improved.
Body – Sunrise Wellbeing Tea
NB: To anyone new to loose leaf tea you do need a proper teapot and follow the instructions regarding serving methods to get the best results. Also I must advise you to check the ingredients on the packets for information regarding allergies or for ingredients that could aggravate or exacerbate any specific conditions.
Before this collaboration with my friend Chelsea from @TastetheTeaBlog (Twitter) I was very dubious and wary of green, herbal and fruit teas. My experiences had consisted of tea bag Company’s mass-producing them with very little care or expertise. However after ordering the loose leaf teas Chelsea advised me to try and properly brewing them I found that my opinion has been changed.
I chose to drink Sunrise Wellbeing tea (as the name suggested I should) in the morning. As someone used to builders tea in the morning it was a little different I have to say. However, once I got used to the idea and the taste of green tea leaves, I started to pick up a few other tastes in there as well. I found the subtle taste of ginger and lemon to be extremely pleasant, extremely refreshing and thirst quenching. I have to say that I felt in a better mood after drinking it. It was a more uplifting way to start the day.
Many green and herbal teas also offer less caffeine. They are a more natural way to start the day using the goodness of nature and the benefits it provides. Order some Sunrise Wellbeing tea for yourself from the following link and start brewing! http://www.birdhouseteacompany.com/shop/green-tea/sunrise-wellbeing-tea/
For more information regarding teas of varying flavors and different properties and ingredients head over to Chelsea’s blog http://www.tastethetea.co.uk.
Body – Probiotics
We often see products being advertised these days using the word “Probiotic” as an influential factor. It sounds like a fancy word and it’s surely a positive thing to have in drinks and yoghurts, or else why would they be telling us about it? In advertising they only tell us what we want to hear and what is good. A good example is soft drinks companies. They tell us what is good about the product; tasty, refreshing, best served chilled with ice on a hot da. What they exclude is the bad; there is so much sugar in them that they are a big contributor to the increase in diabetes and obesity over the last five years in the UK (http://www.nhs.uk/news/2013/02February/Pages/Latest-obesity-stats-for-England-are-alarming-reading.aspx). The thing is though that many people do not know what this fancy word that is obviously supposed to be good actually means.
Well, probiotics are essentially good bacteria or as stated on http://www.medicinenet.com/probiotics/article.htm “live microorganisms that, when administered in adequate amounts, confer a health benefit on the host.” Most of these probiotics, good bacteria, are available in specialist dairy products. The main areas these products will produce results is in strengthening the immune system (Activia) and the digestive system (Yakult) renowned for aiding those who suffer from the many forms of irritable bowel syndrome, as well as being available in products such as Activia probiotic yoghurts. If we can keep the key systems that keep us going well maintained and provide them with things that will be beneficial to their functioning, then I believe we should do it. I can assure that when our bodies feel good inside the feeling spreads to the mind.
Soul – Talking to Positive People
When we are feeling down engaging with the right kind of people can have a really positive impact on our frame of mind and our thought processes. We all have at least one person in our lives, whether a friend, family member or co-worker, who has that ability just to make you feel better. They encourage you, they make you laugh, and they stimulate your mind. Whether you go to see them in person or talk to them over the phone is up to you. I do believe being able to see and touch a person, read their body language and expressions are important but that’s just me.Whatever it is they are providing they have that ability to make us feel good and that’s important.
Having these people in your life is so valuable. Take my Granddad for instance, where my parents see it as their job to keep me grounded and to not get carried away he thoroughly encourages me to get carried away, to have dreams and ambitions that may be a little out of reach. If you have the foresight or ambition to dream about achieving certain goals and vitally, someone who can validate the dream and not treat it with scorn or ridicule but encourage you and believe in you, then you really have someone in your life worth holding on to. After all an ABI/TBI can take away so much from us, why can’t we dream a little? Aim for the stars, you might only reach the moon but its still a bleeding long way!